Yet if the very thing you’re attracted to never leads to the relationship of your dreams, don’t you think it may be wise to make some adjustments? You’d make adjustments if you didn’t feel good about your body on January 1st.

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Even though I am 36, most of the people I meet would think that I am only 26.

Unfortunately, I have been through all kinds of online dates in the last two and a half years.

So while I’m not judging you for being just like I am – I AM pointing out to you that if you insist that you can ONLY be attracted to men who are smarter than you, you are relegating yourself to less than 2% of the population (before we consider things like looks, height, money, religion, humor, charm, attraction, values, etc.) Moreover, you’re relegating yourself to a man who is NOT A GOOD FIT FOR YOU. Thus, my wife doesn’t HAVE to be like me – because we’re great together.

And when two people who are that smart, that opinionated, and that strong-willed get together, it should obvious that sparks will fly – and tensions will mount. And yet you still hold your boyfriend to a ridiculous standard, as if a man who went to a state school and doesn’t watch Sunday morning political talk shows is a dullard. I married a woman who was smart – who gets every joke, who knows about Shakespeare and classical music, who has definite opinions about Israel/Palestine – but she’s not necessarily in the 98th percentile of intellectual curiosity. our time is usually spent talking about fixing up the house, raising our daughter, planning our next vacation, figuring out what we’re going to have for dinner, etc.

But there’s enough anecdotal evidence to suggest a strong correlation. And if good qualities come with bad qualities, have you considered that yours might as well?

So when I hear a woman talk about how “direct” she is, the first thing I think is: “She’s tactless.” I wrote about this in an article for entitled “Are You Honest… ” Self-proclaimed “direct” people often tell their dates what they think about them even if the date didn’t ask.I don’t know what is going on and why I’m lacking luck in finding Mr. I am educated, refined, and a self made millionaire by age 34. Many men, women, elderly, and children of all ages have told me so.People also told me that I am one of nicest and sweetest people they have ever met. You will STILL be attracted to geniuses, but you now know that they do not make for a good fit in your life. Trust me, the reality is FAR better than the fantasy. Evan if i may ask, who is the “pickier” of the two sexes? So, from now on, you’re going to discover the virtues of smart, kind, thoughtful, generous, easygoing, commitment-oriented men. You CAN get the relationship you want; just not with the man you always thought you wanted. The key to your future successful relationships is going to come in opening up to smart guys without all the baggage that comes from being brilliant and driven.