I am a shy, reserved, independent girl who has been told that she is very pretty, and just about everyone who stops and takes the time to talk to me wants to get to know me better.I don't reject any guy as a potential unless he has displayed personality flaws that could be harmful (i.e.We, as a people, are deathly afraid of what other people think of us.

At some point in our evolution, I’m sure this fear of standing out came in handy, but it isn’t relevant anymore. Standing out is a necessity if you want to do what you love. The cold hard truth is that you’ll move forward when you’re sick of staying where you are.

Think about where you’ll be five, ten or even twenty years from now if you let your fears control you. Now think about where you’ll be if you challenged your fears and took action. You see, when you think about putting yourself out there, you’re letting self-created thoughts control you.

You don’t know what people will think of you even if the worst happens. As I’ve kept facing my fears, I’ve learned that my fears all too often have no bearing in reality.

They are merely unproductive thoughts that lead to more unproductive thoughts.

A charming, articulate man, he confided that his interest in the field came from his own struggles with shyness. "Not everyone is as comfortable as you are exposing their true feelings," he said. It took me thirty years to realize my childhood dream of becoming a writer, partly because I was afraid to write about personal things -- yet these were the subjects I was drawn to.

Eventually my drive to write grew stronger than my fear, and I've never looked back.

I still envy friends who write about topics like science or politics.

They can show up at dinner parties without everyone announcing: "Here comes the introvert! Or perhaps you're afraid of failure, or of success.1. People have always had to put themselves out there.

Wanting to hide in the corner and succeed anyway is a feeling I know all too well.

But I also know that if I want to do work I love, I have to go out there and actually do something.

If 'putting yourself out there' isn't these things, then what is?